It’s that time of year – the season to be jolly and think about those we love!
How’s your year been? Did you know what an amazing difference you’ve made to all the people around you this year? Maybe you’re thinking you haven’t, but you have. The film It’s a Wonderful Life reminds me of this every year.
In the film, James Stewart plays George Bailey, a family man who’s had enough of being in debt and listening to his kids playing the piano badly! He is thinking about committing suicide, but then his guardian angel, Clarence, shows him what his hometown would be without him around. There’s a lot of crime and unhappiness around now, because the small acts of kindness that George Bailey has performed throughout the film – which don’t even seem that significant at the time – haven’t happened. George had saved his brother as a child, and his brother went onto save servicemen in the war, who also had now died in this alternate reality. His wife Mary had never found happiness, and his now-childless mother (because George’s brother died, remember) is bitter and sad.
George frantically asks Clarence to not let this reality be true. “I want to live again!” he cries. “Take me back!”
When he goes back to his hometown, George is so grateful just to see the grocery store and shops – things he’d probably seen hundreds of times before, and taken for granted. He’s ecstatic to see Mary and his children. Being so close to losing everything, makes people so happy just to experience normality. It’s great we have films like this to remind us of how lucky we are AND how powerfully we influence others, so we can appreciate what we’ve got, right here, right now.
You are amazing, okay!
Your unconscious mind believes what you tell it to believe, so I invite you to only say kind and empowering things about yourself, and not give any energy to disempowering thoughts. Don’t put yourself down in your head, or in front of other people. And if other people criticise you, you don’t have to believe them! What if they were saying you had blue eyes when you’ve really got brown – you wouldn’t believe them, would you?
Forgive yourself for the times you regret, and remember all the amazing things about yourself. You’re a complex human being, and you can’t logically judge yourself only on the actions you regret. If you’ve done something regrettable, create an intention not to behave that way again, then forgive yourself and move forward. If you do end up doing the regrettable thing again, just repeat the forgiveness/intention process. Would you stop being friends with someone just because of one regrettable thing they did? What if a friend told you they’d done something silly and now they thought they were useless – would you agree and say, “Yes, you are”? Unlikely. Or what if a child made a mistake, would you encourage her to dwell on it for the rest of her life, telling her never to forgive herself for it? What makes you so special that you have to be perfect all the time? Cut yourself some slack!
Over to you: Speak your greatness
On an A4 piece of paper, write down all the qualities you love most about yourself and read it whenever you’re feeling insecure or unhappy. Smile at yourself in the mirror! Look at how much you’ve achieved! You’re so cool!
I’d like to take this opportunity to thank Mark Lanesbury for all his kind words and support recently. Go and have a look at his inspiring blog. His writing is beautiful, and he speaks so powerfully from the heart – you can’t help but be inspired and motivated!
What are your thoughts about how powerful you are, or how precious normality is? :)